100 Days of Wisdom: Wisdom Day 71 – The Wisdom of Surrendering to a Process We Can’t See

Wisdom Day 71

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“All the buried seeds crack open in the dark the instant they surrender to a process they can’t see. .. As a seed buried in the earth cannot imagine itself as an orchid or hyacinth, neither can a heart packed with hurt imagine itself loved or at peace. The courage of the seed is that once cracking, it cracks all the way.”

~ Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening (4/5) ~

What a lovely reminder about the spiritual lessons found in nature!

We are surrounded by living wisdom teachers that demonstrate to us how to live fearlessly and faithfully. Their example is a divine testament about how to yield to a spiritual process that cracks us wide open so that we can spring forth from the perceived limits of our current situation and grow into the fullness of the divine being we were created to be and already are.

And Mark’s words also remind us that so much of our potential is actualized in the darkness and just beneath the surface.

And so it seems surrender and courage go hand in hand. It takes courage to surrender. And it takes full surrender to “the process'” — often without knowing the plan or purpose of what we are going through in the moment — to truly grow, to break ground, to see the light and to “be ye transformed”.

Wisdom Lesson 16: Who you are is enough (and all you’ll ever be … if you’re lucky)

“You do not have to do anything to be loved, and being who you are does not let others down. This needs to be repeated, and often. Simply be who you are, and love what is before you.”

Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening (8/25)

As I make my way through Mark Nepo’s Book of Awakening one daily entry at a time I become more and more convinced that he wrote this book just for me!!!

To be sure, however, he wrote it as an expression of his awakened self; but it’s his intention to bless the spiritual journey of others (like mine and, perhaps, like yours) with the wisdom and insight he’s gathered like breadcrumbs along the way that often moves me to knowing tears. With each passing day and entry I draw closer to my “self”. And because of this I feel this book was tailor-made to be one of the brightest flashing beacons of light intended to show me the way back “home”.

Today’s entry was no exception.

Today’s entry is titled “Love Is in the Being”. I take this to mean it is not what I do that earns love but who I am — the “me” behind the mask of personality and the illusion of fear — that is love and loved just because I AM.

The entry offers that we should not be distracted by others’ expectations of who we should be (or shouldn’t be) or what we should or shouldn’t do because “[b]eing who we are doesn’t let down others.” Or at least, it shouldn’t. And even (and especially) if it does, we don’t do others or ourselves any favors by dimming our light and playing small to promote their comfort. That reminds me of another saying:

“Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”

Real love encourages the real you to SHINE; it doesn’t dim your awesome glow. Real love lets you exhale and lean in, it doesn’t require you to hold your breath and complete a laundry list of “to dos” before you earn your keep. In fact, real love doesn’t keep you, it lets you fly. Real love is the wind beneath your wings not the harness that keeps you tethered below the heights to which you were predestined to ascend.

Of course, love also shows up in the compassionate recognition of what others require and desire. But “the displeasure of others is no reason to muffle your love,” says Nepo. Selah [pause and think on that]. And most importantly, we cannot expect others to love without limits if we continually place limits on our own full and loving expression of self.

If your self-critic (yes, the one in your head that won’t shut up about all the ways you’ve “failed” at life) is a meaner son-of-a-gun than the meanest person you know than any perceived lack or limitation that shows up in your life is more likely a reflection of how you feel about yourself than anyone else’s opinion anyway. So start there; with the brightest and darkest parts of yourself. Love them completely. And require everyone who enters your space to do the same.

Remember, love is in the being. Because you are, you are loved. You are more than enough. And all you’ll ever be (if you’re lucky).

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Awaken to the healing power of speaking your truth

“What is most healing about bearing witness to things exactly as they are, including my own part in my pain, is that when the voice of the pain fits the pain, there is no room for distortion or illusion. In this way, truth becomes a clean bandage that heals, keeping dirt out of the wound. To voice things as they are is the nearest medicine.” ~ Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening (2/21/2012)

Empowered with The Book of Awakening in my hand each day, I face and embrace over and again the ever-present desire within me to walk, talk, think, feel, dream and “BE” … authentically. I am so grateful to Mark Nepo for the reminder, the encouragement, the lessons and blessings in his story, his journey, his example and his awakening.

The entries encourage me to return to stillness and turn away from the obsessive distraction of needing to have “the right answer”, to somehow figure it all out or identify why it all went terribly wrong in my humble estimation.

I am reminded that I can see what was or, most importantly, what is without getting lost in it.