100 Days of Wisdom: Wisdom Day 81 – The wisdom in “bucket lists”? Belonging and love!

Wisdom Day 81: The Wisdom in Bucket Lists? Belonging & Love

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Most bucket lists include things like, “Go on an adventure in a far-off land,” “Learn a new language, or “Buy a dream car.” Although all these experiences can make our lives more exciting, the reason we crave these activities goes a little deeper. What drives each of these desires is one common connector, an innate yearning to belong and to feel love. When we do what we love, we become an expression of love and our happiness is infectious.

~ Shannon Kaiser, MindBodyGreen.com


Who doesn’t want to experience a sense of belonging? Who doesn’t want to feel loved? I know I do. But did you know that fulfilling a “throw caution to the wind” “bucket list” style dream could bring you closer to both?

Creating a list of must-dos before you die (aka “kick the bucket”) can lead not only to a sense of accomplishment, by checking off the boxes, but also to an enlivened and enriched life. And just so we’re clear, I’m talking about the life you’re actually living right now … not the one you wish you had lived or hope to live one day.

Yes!Saying yes to the things that make your heart sing and spirit thrive expands your capacity to love yourself.When you are filled with self-love you are better able and willing to give love, and to receive love from others. The love within each of us reaches beyond our physical being and reminds us of the connection that already exists between our self and every other divine creation in the universe.

I don’t know about you, but knowing my bucket list goal of spending a summer in France and Italy on a food and wine excursion can actually lead to world healing, peace and love makes me want to start researching today! [Note to self, start researching TODAY!] I’d say that’s one heck of a BONUS and ROBLI (return on bucket list investment).

I admit I never put skydiving and running a marathon in the same category as connectedness. But I guess it does makes sense. Continue reading

100 Days of Wisdom: Day 6 – Own Your (imperfect) Story, Discover Your (perfect) Power

Wisdom Day 6

Read about the 100 days of Wisdom™ Project by Tonya Marie

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“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection


I don’t know about you, but Brene Brown’s quote above touched the very essence of my being!

So much of the first third of my life (wow, I am now old enough to actually say that!) was a carefully constructed one. I came into this world with an “err on the side of caution” and “I’ll just do it myself” energy. My early childhood experiences reinforced concern for safety, security and self-reliance. And because every action we take — whether beneficial or harmful — has some sort of payoff, my self-reliant perfectionist mindset seemed to serve me well … at least early on.

But “A”s, accolades and awards, setting myself “apart” and being “on top” has its downside. It can be lonely and unfulfilling if nothing you do is ever quite good enough; especially if you also buy into the lie that it’s you against the world because you aren’t good enough. Selah [pause … and think on that]. Continue reading