Wisdom Day 13
The Wisdom in Deciding for Yourself
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© 2011 Tonya Evans
October 3, 2012
Have you ever noticed that some people just have a knack of being able to make quick decisions (especially when it’s in their best interest) and to always get what they want?
For example, the person who asks that their meal be prepared in a certain way. Or the person who gets chilly on an airplane and asks the flight attendant to adjust the thermostat while the rest of us sit there silently (and COLD), or try to find a blanket (do they still have those on planes??) or worst of all, complain. And then there’s the person who tells the taxi cab driver the specific route to take or asks for (and gets) a raise, and the person who always seems to get an extra discount, upgrade or unpublished rate on travel just because they asked!
But perhaps the best example is the child who doesn’t “know better” and cries whenever she is unhappy or in need until her needs are met and contentment is restored.
Babies demonstrate that humans are hardwired to seek stasis (balance), well-being and the basic necessities of life (nourishment, shelter, protection, rest, play and human interaction) without giving it a second thought. Babies don’t give it a second thought because they have not yet been conditioned to believe that the “proper,” “polite” or “appropriate” thing to do is to consider another’s happiness or needs when or even before choosing whether to seek their own.
Of course, in order to get along in society and “play nicely with others” we sometimes must compromise when the good of community outweighs our individual needs (hint, hint U.S. Congress) or in personal relationships so that both parties feel their needs are being met. But when our ability to choose what is in our best interest is hampered chronically; that is, when we always put the needs of others before our own, a dangerous imbalance can arise. Continue reading →